To another point in the thread, you have to be willing to leave your comfort zone to progress. I met a guy at work who had been climbing for 4 years and could not break the 5.7 barrier on lead. I offered to help, which he accepted. When we got to Cathedral ledge, I gave him the guidebook and said, " pick a 5.8 route". He looked at me and said I'm not sure I'm ready. I said from now on you only climb 5.8, learn as you go. Two months later he was leading 5.9.